Thanks for positive feedback anyone and negative feedback thank you as well. Sounds like your partner is a narcissist, please join a narcissist support group on Facebook and check it for yourself. Dogs can be wonderful pets, but people dont realize the WORK that goes into having a well adjusted, healthy dog. I think that many of us tend to believe that people can get better overtime, not worse, so it is hard to see everything coming in the middle of a fog. So, she would block them off from the living room while we watch a movie and then they would bark tremendously and she would say she just has to let them inthereby making them the boss! I dont not give a monkey to be honest. Thought if I could help train, it would turn out okay. Each has a place for love in your life one animal one human..HELLO! He never asked if I would be ok with helping look after a dog. Dogs are your slaves, respect them, give them tasks, love them and ask that they maintain a respectful dog/owner relationship train them to love commands, train them to be dogs not people. You deserve to be listened to, talked to, and even disagreed with. Im at a loss. He then told me that he doesnt like dogs, finds it stressful to be around them, is afraid of getting bitten and wont have one in his home. You are very lucky to have a supportive partner. He agreed. My dog sleeps in her bed until about 2-4 in the morning when it gets cold, she jumps into bed. and I mean FIGHT. And btw, they never get brushed, nails clipped, no vaccinations, no anti flea treatments or whatever, and no showers. It was like the wedding vows were already given to he dog love, honor, cherish. It is a Weimeraner, and I hate the breed, its characteristics, its mannerisms and love all other dogs. Find another significant other that loves their dog, yet makes you feel special, respected, and loved as you should be treated. I think its a big mistake to get involved with someone who has a dog if they hate hate hate fur! My ex and I would walk with her bulldogs and people driving by would look and smile. She has 5 dogs and I cant even begin to describe that situation. She is constantly making licking noises, eats my dogs food when my dogs not looking and seems to act like more of a jerk when my boyfriend is gone. I was able to love the dog when I didnt have to do so much for her. thank you so much for having a forum which allows me to vent & I hope there is no judgement on the readers reply but theyve been in my house for 2 years so I think Ive sufficiently given them a trial. So that's cleaning up after it, walking it, doing the training, and most importantly making sure the dog doesn't destroy my garden that I've spent thousands of dollars on. A house that reeks of dog & destroyed furniture instead of a family and a lovely home. It almost feels like Im entering a relationship where I have to accept this dog as a step child! Thats bad but whats worse is that he doesnt understand, or doesnt care, that your basic needs arent being met; the needs of his real lover, the dogs, are being put before your needs. My issue with my spouse and his dog is the dog, an animal, usurped me, given higher value, and more cherished than his wife. Firstly, she has a medium sized dog that is a complete house dog. She had one nasty bulldog at first which drooled all the time and also snored and farted. My dog has seizures and is getting old and Im tired of listening to my husband about this. He keeps saying that there is something wrong with him. We have a 7 month old baby and he is choosing his dog. Im tired of the house smelling like dog no matter how many times a day we dettol it. We love our dog, but we do NOT treat him like a human child because hes not one. It actually is 11 years old but has the energy of a 3 year old. His pee smells horrible and I recently learned that the smell of wolf urine is so strong that people buy it off the internet to ward off raccoons and possums. He obsesses over every detail related to this dog what it eats, what it plays with, where it is, how often it poops, etc. But that does not happen. Doesnt mean that the person has herpes, its a different virus and specific to mouth sores (as I understand it, anyways). Life is about work and staying busy so I really feel Ive never had the time to get a dog or take time to care for one. I was tired of this and enforced her laying down, but then it was a battle of her getting up and my telling her to lay down. There has to be something kind of off about a relationship if there is this much of a disconnect. Yet most of the time something will always get in the way. What pisses me off greatly is, his dog has nipped my kids and I have calmy told my kids not too play rough etc. He has had training and about every option there is for this issue and he just cant stop. The dog cant stand up for himself but you can. Get help from neighbors. Please be careful. I dont think this is healthy for the dogs and its definitely not healthy for our relationship. :) Its too I didnt meet someone like you that has this common sense attitude when it come to their pets. she claims hes depressed with her daughter not being here. I am so sorry that so many are having a terrible time with their pets and partners. Are you serious right now? The fact is, this is really obvious regarding why does your husband/boyfriend wanna do this. A woman said they were so sick of his dog, his friends stopped coming over. When my ex was abusing me hed try all sorts of tactics to get in my head and even attempted to kidnap my Siberian wolf. Being dropped off at the shelter can be traumatizing for a pet. My husband also smells dirty like dogs because they lick him and he cuddles them all over the place. Your siginifgant other most of the time will never care for the pet the way you do only put uo with it because they love you and let me tell you women that goes a long ways if your anything like me. People dont stick their noses up or will leave if their partner makes a big emotional sacrifice for you. I would never ask my partner to sacrifice something incredibly important to them. But unfortunately I didnt know that and Im now invested in this relationship. The anger towards him stems from the fact that I picked up the dog at the pound without consulting him. Other solutions that are worth considering. I told my mom how I disrespected him over his interactions with his pet. When I joined this forum, I realized that Im not alone and that there is actually a need for support groups over this issue. potty break schedule. Its so depressing to me this is not what I want in my life, or in my relationship. Perhaps its time to move on in your life. I really thought a girlfriend is suppose to be number one. And no, like me, your not losing your mind. Why am I still around? List could go on forever I cut dog out completely once to unbearable. Incorrect. But once its time to sleep she is right in my face panting and pawing. We have to take my car everywhere because his is so full of hair. While I see him mostly on weekends, tonight I claimed sickness because I need peace and quiet. My work laptop, INSIDE my work bag has hair in it. Last night, we had an argument about it because she put the dog on my pillows and then cheered him on (she thought it was funny and did as a joke per her view) and got upset because i told her she was reinforcing the idea that its ok to sleep there (which it is most def not) so then she got upset, picked up the dog and slept in the guest room with him. Every dog site pushes the same narrative: there are no limits to what a dog is entitled to (along with ads for expensive trash to buy Fido). I would rather see the dog go to another home. She has a severe case of separation anxiety, and because he leaves before me, I have to hear it because she will not shut up till shes done freaking out. My boyfriend can't handle that this dog is bouncy, happy to see him and that he wants to cuddle with him. I am a light sleeper and cannot sleep with snoring (she is a pug and snores quite loud), not to mention Ive never liked having a dog sleep in my room. Actually I believe he may have been a narcissist. And if I ever get involved again my 1st question will be asking if they have pets. Good luck and congratulations on your new baby!! My wife and I have a small dog who is biting our young children. My dog ran out the room first and me second. He tells me off for that apparently, it is not in his nature to bite and he has been trained since a puppy for anyone to touch him during mealtime. In fact, giving less attention to the dog all of a sudden can lead to a number of psychological issues. I say that its a cop-out, and those people are deceived into believing that an animal can give them the love that they are searching for, the love that can really only be provided by another human. Im so happy I found this forum and to know that Im not alone! Human loyalty isnt malleable, but it is breakable. He was even nice to my cat and the cat loved being on his lap. It sounds like your husband has not taken the needed time to properly train his dog. We tried for one night to keep Fido out of the bedroom, but he whined all night and damaged the door frame by clawing at it. She is hard to discipline, doesnt listen, and very nervous. The dogs anal glade burst on my pillow, she pees all over the place, brings ticks and dander into the home and my wife does not see this as a concern to our newborn. It violates their commitment to their dog. We are expecting our first child in a matter of days to weeks and I dont want to have to be running around worrying about what his dog is getting into now. Absolutely everywhere. Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. If he keeps jumping up maybe try a kennel at first. Litter boxes are so useful when training tiny puppies, as they dont know how to use bathrooms. Anyway, just wanted to say that I totally understand your frustration and also, your desire to hang in there. A mean landlord had a cat that do anything to stop it isometric refuse lee took the cat to a different town an.d found a new home all in secret. What should I do, I have know where to go and no money bc everything is in her name and bank account. Not to mention how he cuddles and talks to his dog all evening. My husband says that hitting our Pitt/American bull dog puppy is okay because he is driving him crazy especially when my husband is trying to work. This 50-something woman who until recently had her cat living in her house for fourteen long years insisted on being the caretaker it was her idea to help us with that, not ours. How did you end up going with Beau? She wants to go with me to see my friend and his wife and baby in Florida, but I dont see it happening. All rights reserved. There are a few things you should try before giving the dog up. He wont let me instill any discipline in the dog whatsoever. Anyway, I now smoke cigarettes because Im so stressed and didnt before. I just begged for her to live and promised that even if she was permanently disabled , I would care for her kindly as long as she lived.For another 3-4 days she was still retarded. I want the dog trained to be all right to be outside for longer periods of time in anticipation of trying to manage twins as they develop and also need floor space. What else is he intolerant of? Giving priority to the dog over the husband. There are times when I feel like choking that dog due to the amount of aggravation from him not being obedient and being spoiled !!! Ive caved for everything my husband wanted that I completely disagree with but having the dog in the bed i truly dislike. I dont want this puppy to be a toy and go from home to home but no one seems my point. Another year passed and my girlfriend and I decided to move in together. I think we should both let them go and find someone who loves us for who we are and accepts our pets x. I dont agree with how the dog is treated but please realize.A DOG IS NOT A PERSON AND TO THINK THAT THE WAY A DOG IS TREATED WILL REFFECT HOW A CHILD IS TREATED IS LUDICROUS. While I would choose the dog over the guy, I dont want that to happen. If you do so, you will see a huge improvement within a week or two. Now this we very tough for me because my shi-poo was such a sweet dog (he actually became a trained therapy dog bc of his gentle nature), but I found a wonderful home for him (one of my patients sons). Honestly, Logan had great points about talking and compromising with your SO in order to have a relationship that benefits everyone (including your dog). Telling him that in six years when the dog is dead, and Im not there, what will you regret? We are supposed to get married next year and this whole dog thing is really starting to question my relationship. I seriously believe its a sort of mental illness that needs to be addressed! You still need to feed them and walk them before youre able to take care of your own needs. Id love to get rid of them, but that is clearly not an option. I admire you,I know I will never put up with this situation. Dont hire dog walkers. Yuck! I cant trust the dog around our, and I cant trust my wife to do the right thing for her family. Idiots owning idiots. I start to ignore her dog because of this and feel like Im getting like her just because Im trying to get some fairness into this. Oh, bringing the dog down to relieve itself is a pain as well. Its so dumb splitting for an animal. Basically, neither of our loved ones have the ability to set up boundaries for their dogs. In your case he made it so clear that his dog is number one in his life and if you were ever to get married to him you will forever take a back seat to that animal and its master. Thank you for being so real. And I dont at all understand the idea of not liking a particular dog. I put him a doggie bed beside of ours and he slept there. I went through a very lonely period in my life after a break up from my then fiance and I got Nappy, a male shitzu, to help with my loneliness. 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